Scrolling through Social Media and I come across all these beautiful, smiling faces of my friends and family on their own adventures. Camping, hiking, concerts, road trips, travelling, weddings, new babies etc. I had every intention of living our best lives this summer, but here I am on a long weekend sitting on the couch, scrolling through everyone else’s best lives.
It’s easy to become overwhelmed with envy. Social Media has made jealousy so accessible with everyone posting their highlight reels. Sure, we travelled long before Facebook was a thing. But now it’s in your face all day, every day.
So I had to take a few moments to think about this and check myself. I was feeling inadequate. I was feeling like I wasn’t living up to my potential. I was feeling like I needed more.
And maybe, just maybe, this is why other areas of life begin to slide. People posting about the relationship triumphs: sharing cute, sentimental gestures from their partner. Or maybe you see someone’s engagement photos – sweet, cuddly couples holding each other and staring longingly into each other’s eyes.
Well, guess what… not to be buzzkill – and maybe this is more of a reality check than a crushing-of-hopes-and-dreams – but this is not everyday life.
Those cute, family beach photos? There were three tantrums, 17 seagulls attacking the unattended bag of goldfish crackers, a toddler who peed themselves, a mom who yelled more than she likes to admit, a big kid who gave the little brother a black eye, and sand in everyone’s picnic lunch.
And those cute engagement photos? Well, the boyfriend needed to basically be bribed to even attend this whole thing. And they probably were fighting in the car the whole way there.
I’m not saying we are all living a facade – but just remember that we alllllll have imperfect moments every. dang. day.
Comparaison is the thief of joy.
It’s true, yes. So how do we fix this? For starters, stop comparing. Look at your own life from an un-altered perspective. Those little moments actually mean a lot more than you think.
Next, write a bucket list. This is YOUR bucket list. I started to realllllly think about the moments I could experience that would bring me joy. Not someone else’s moment I am seeing on Social Media. My bucket list may take time. Maybe even a life time… but this is what I am aiming for.
Stop living your life through someone else’s. Live your life through your eyes. Trust me – you have so much more to be thankful for than you think.
My Bucket List:
1. Camp out on a beach next to the ocean
2. Ride in a hot air ballon.
3. Sleep in a villa over the ocean.
4. Travel to Italy.
5. Volunteer at a homeless shelter serving a Christmas dinner.
6. Fly in a helicopter over the Grand Canyon.
7. Learn to drive standard.
8. Finish reading the Jean M. Auel series of books.
9. See the Eiffel Tower.
10. Take my kids individually to a concert and see their favourite band.
11. Write a book.
12. Change someone’s life.
13. Buy a home.
14. Ride a zip line through a tropical forest.
15. Get a full sleeve tattoo.
16. Watch a sunset from the beach in Costa Rica.
17. Float down a river in a tube.
18. Meet someone famous.
19. Make a piece of art and have it featured somewhere.
20. Go to a casino, and win something.
21. Do a portage camping trip.
22. Fly a plane.
23. Celebrate Christmas in another country.
24. Learn another language.
25. Visit every province in Canada.