Do you know how many billions of dollars are made every year off making you feel like you need to be better?
Try this cream to erase marks!
Wear this bra to make your chest look bigger!
Take this pill to make you skinny!
Drink this shake to boost your metabolism and increase fat loss!
Drink this tea!
Buy my program!
Listen to me… these companies don’t want to see you happy. They want to sell you something and make a buck. You are simply a channel to get money into their pockets.
So let’s say you buy a program and pop a pill and you shed a few pounds. Then what? Did you land that job? Get the promotion? Did it fix your relationship, or mend your broken heart?
Did it actually solve all your problems?
I bet the answer is no.
I had to take a step back from coaching. I went into it full tilt legit wanting to change people’s lives. I thought by helping them lose weight, that they would be happy. But were they truly happy? Hard nope. Some of them lost some weight, some lost a significant amount of weight – but none of them lasted long term. And life still kept throwing them curveballs, so they stopped working out and felt extreme shame and guilt.
So I changed my approach… what if we could teach people to simply live. Just be. No diets, no excessive cardio, no macros. Just living. Learning to be happy with themselves and their imperfections. Eating foods that make you feel good… maybe that’s egg whites and veggies all week, and pizza on a Friday? It’s balance and forgiving yourself. It’s also getting active because it makes you feel good; not because you have to.
I also wanted to expose the dishonesty of social media when it comes to trying to sell you something. Social Media is a snapshot of one single second in a person’s life. It shows a twisted, contorted, booty-popping, belly-sucking pose to make that person look better. Why are we trying to look like that all the time when that person can barely look like that for a single second? It doesn’t make sense. Our daughters are going to look to these people and aspire to be something that simply doesn’t exist. Photoshop, filters, poses, surgery… it’s not real life. It only adds to the shame and guilt we feel.
As a mother I am trying to portray something that is attainable: a real and healthy body, with extra skin and cellulite. I am a woman with a past. A woman with daily challenges and less-than-perfect moments. A woman who tries her best to encourage others to do the same.
I don’t have a product to sell you, or a quick fix program for you to buy. I want to teach people how to be a little more forgiving of themselves and make time for them – because they are their own priority. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Doesn’t that mean exercise and diet? Nope. It’s self care and taking mental breaks.
I only hope that more people will get on board with sharing more real moment instead of false expectations. It’s a better message to share for the next generation. We live in a world of filters, so take off the mask and just be you.
You are enough.